Because I’ve lived it.
I survived childhood trauma outside of my family that I know affected my parenting negatively. In addition, I come from a family of origin where drugs and alcohol were normalized, as was emotional and verbal abuse. None of it was meant to hurt or leave scars, and my parents loved me dearly. I have learned that what our family of origin deals us becomes what we know and recreate in an attempt to escape it. I did just that, and in the mix had two beautiful children. Since my personal work had not been done, I could not become the parent I truly wanted to be. I tried, but was tangled up in unhealthy patterns, and until I started to work on myself, my trying was not enough.
AS A PARENT
As the mother of two young adults, I look back at when they were little and see how what I learned in childhood informed my parenting. Some of it was positive, and some was negative. The good news is that it is never too late to change and grow as a human being. In so doing, anyone can become a healthier parent. By leaving the negative patterns that were gained in childhood in the dirt of the arena, we can be present to focus on ourselves, on our children, and on the relationship we have with each of them. My children see the difference in me since I began doing my own work, and respect me for taking the action to change myself for the better.
Horses have helped me to get in touch with what my truth is. My mind had me stuck in “trying” to be and do what I thought I “should”, while my heart was miserable. Horses read energy. They know when our hearts and minds are either incongruent or in alignment, and show us when we are unsure. When a person’s heart and mind match, it is like candy for them. They choose to be with us, and bring us their big huge hearts to help us heal.
AS A FOURTH GRADE TEACHER
I have been a teacher for 16 years. Two years as a preschool teacher, one year as a literacy instructor at all grade levels, one year as a third grade teacher, and 13 years as a fourth grade teacher. I have gotten to know many children and families on an intimate level. What I believe in my heart is that children come in as beautiful beings that desire and deserve to be cherished and loved as they are. As the adults that our children depend on, when we clean up our pasts so that our parenting is not tainted by it, we can parent from an emotionally healthy place.
I would love to serve mothers and fathers, aunts, uncles and grandparents, and any other caregivers who want to be the best they can be for the children who depend on them.
I desire to help generations of people. Not just you, but your children and your children’s children. Many of the negative patterns that we acquire as children did not come solely from our parents but from our grandparents and their grandparents, and on down the line. Some patterns we can see clearly, while others are hidden under deep layers that the horses and I will help you to uncover, discover and transform.
My deepest desire is to be part of a world where all humans move forward in positivity. Where what we pass on to our children are thoughtful, beautiful messages of how cherished and appreciated they are. My goal is to assist in breaking generational patterns for each of us today, tomorrow, and into the future.
In partnering with my equine coaches, I will assist you in your process of uncovering and reprograming the negative patterns that you gained in childhood, in order to parent from a place of wholeness and connection.
~ Working the 12 steps of Al Anon have helped me in my relationships with loved ones who struggle with alcohol and drug dependency.
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What the horses and I do is a non-traditional kind of work. We go way beyond talking about an issue and analyzing it. The horses and I will support you to access deep parts of yourself that are at work out of your consciousness, in an experiential way, so that the effects of your past issues are released from your being. The result is a sense of freedom to live your life in the way that you truly desire, and that your children truly deserve.
Let's start with a simple phone call or email. Reach out. You have everything to gain.